Kei te mohio katoa tatou ki te wheako o te whakautu i te kore korero, o te hinengaro ka tutakina, me te ngakau ngoikore, kaore i panaia ki te whakahou. Engari he aha te mea e hoatu ana ki a koe taua whakaaro? Na me pehea e taea ai e koe te kore e hoatu ki tetahi atu?
Ko te whakarato i te ahua o te koiora pai e kaha ana me te whakaaroaro. Mena kei te tango koe i te wa ki te tuku atu i tetahi urupare ki a ratau tuhinga tuhituhi auaha, i roto i te akomanga, i te tuhi tuhi, i te takitahi ranei, ka hiahia koe ki te tuku urupare ka awhina i taua kaituhi ki te whakawhanake i ona kaha. A, i te mahi pera, ka whakawhanakehia e koe o raatau whakaaro whakaaro nui, me o raatau pukenga hei kaituhi.
01 A tai'o maitai i te ohipa.
02 Whiriwhiria au Kupu.
Ko etahi o nga kaiwhakatika e tohutohu ana ki te piri ki nga korero "I" (hei tauira, "Ka kaha ake au ki te pakanga") kaore i te korero "koe", ka whai whakaaro koe (hei tauira, "Me tino whakatika koe i te timatanga"). Te arotahi ki taau ake urupare, ki te tuhi ranei: "Ko te ahua o te korero i ahuareka ki tenei waahanga," ranei "Ka pai ake te waahanga ki te whakaatuhia." He nui te korero i konei. "
He mea nui te pono, engari, ko ta Alan Ziegler i tuhi i roto i te Pukapuka Tuhituhi Tuhituhi Tuhituhi , "Ka taea e koe te korero pono e kinongia ana e koe tetahi korero, engari ko te tangata e kaha ana ki te whakatikatika i te utu, ka waiho hei kaituhi pai atu i te whakarongo." Te arotahi ki te hanga i te "mahi pai-whakapono hei awhina." Kia tupato me pehea koe e takoto ai i to whakatau.
03 Tīmata ki te Pai.
He maha nga akomanga me nga röpü tuhi e hiahia ana i ia hoa ki te korero i tetahi mea pai me tetahi mea e hiahia ana kia mahi. Ka whakautu katoa tatou ki nga urupare kino ka pai ake mehemea he pai ano hoki, a ka tuhia he reo pai ake mo te whakapae. Me mahara nga kaipānui nui rawa atu i etahi wa, he mea kei a raatau nga tuhinga katoa.
04 Whakaarohia He aha e kore e mahi.
Whakarongo ki a koe ano hei kaipānui. Mena he mea kei te whakamutu koe i tetahi korero, ki te mamae ranei koe i tetahi wahanga, whakarongo. Whakamātauria kia mohiohia he aha koe e whai ai i taua hohenga. He aha e kore e mahi mo te ahuatanga, mo te take ranei, mo te tuhi ano ranei? Mena kua maru koe, he nui rawa te whakaatu? Me nui ake te pakanga? Mena kaore koe e korero ana ki te tangata, he aha? Kaore ko te korero kaore noa i to mea, engari he mea pea, tera pea he mea i roto i to whakautu ka taea te pai ake te tuhituhi. Whakaritea tenei korero whakahirahira ki te kaituhi i roto i to whakatau.
05 Kia Tiakina me te Ataata.
Ahakoa he korero pakiwaitara etahi o nga korero e pa ana ki a ia, mawehe i nga korero whakahirahira a te kaituhi, ahakoa mehemea kei te haere tahi me taua mea. Ko te tango haumaru he wāhanga o te tukanga auaha, a ko te tikanga ko te titiro whakamataku mai i tenei wa ki tenei wa. Ko nga mea e taea ana, kua whakaaturia e te ripoata i to ratau poauau. Whakamahia te kore o te whakaute.
06 Eiaha e haapae i te parau mau.
Mena he tangata koe kei te raruraru ki te whakapae, koinei to waahi ki te mahi i runga. Whakamahia i roto i nga korero tino pai, engari ka whakawhitiwhiti i nga mea e whakaaro ana koe kei te mahi. Ko te reo penei "Ki taku whakaaro he pai ake te korero ki te ... ..." ka pai ake te ahuareka, me te pai ake o te kaituhi. Engari tuku i to whakaaro. Ko te whakapae he tohu mo te whakaute. Kei te korero ki te kaituhi e whakaaro ana koe he pai o ta ratau tuhituhi: e whakapono ana koe ki to raatau taatau kia pono ki a ratou.