Hangahia o Tohu Whakaaetanga Whaiaro
Ko tana riri i te kore e tata ki a ia tana marena, no te mea kihai ia i tuku i tana wahine ki nga whakawhitinga korero i a ia me ia anake.
Kua tata te roa o te wa i kawea mai ai ia ki te korerorero.
Ko tana hiahia ki te karo i te whakawhitiwhitinga he tino pakari kei a ia he raruraru haumaru i roto i tona hinengaro, me te whakaaro kua mahi ia ki te take. Ka taea e koe te whakaaro, kaore tenei e mahi - he tino mo te tangata atu.
Kei te hara koe ki te pupuri i nga pakanga hinengaro me nga whakaeke ?
He maha nga iwi kaore i te waimarie ina tae mai ki te riri . Kei te mohio ahau ki te ariā o te whakawhitinga korero i to upoko; kia taea ai e koe te whakamahere i nga mea e hiahia ana koe ki te korero me pehea e hiahia ana koe ki te korero. I etahi wa ka nui enei korero whakawhitiwhiti whakaaro ki te whakatau i te take, no te mea kei te mohio koe he nui noa atu te mahi i roto ia koe.
E mohio ana ahau kua noho ahau i etahi haora e takoto ana i te moenga i te po ka korerorero ki nga tangata e riri ana ahau, ka raruraru hoki. Ehara i te mea ko tenei mahi ka pakaru i to moe, i to whakaaro, me to hauora, kaore e tino whakatau i te take, a he kino pea ki to whanaungatanga.
Kaua e hara ki a au, kaore ahau e whakapono ana me whakawakia nga mahi katoa. Mena kei a koe te korero i tetahi wa, kaua e manukanuka. Mena ka hoki mai a ka hoki ano koe, ka timata pea te whakaaro ki te whakahaere i tetahi korerorero.
Ma te toru o nga whakapae o to upoko , me timata koe ki te whakamahere me pehea e pa ai koe ki te raruraru pono na te mea kei te hiahia koe ki te mahi.
Me pehea e mau ai te raruraru, te raruraru me te whakawehi ranei
Tīmata mā te whakarite ia koe ki te whakawhiti i te take tino. Ka taea e koe te whakaatu i te take i roto i te kotahi (e rua ranei), e kore e pa ana ki te taha hinengaro, i runga i nga waahanga .
Hei tauira, me hiahia koe ki te whakawhiti atu i to hoa mahi mo te tango i nga moni katoa mo te mahi i mahi tahi ai korua tokorua i runga i tetahi kaupapa. Kaore i te korero, "I tangohia e koe te katoa o te nama, blah, blah, blah ..." me te whakaatu i to koe pouri, ko te aha e taea e koe ki te korero i roto i to koutou whakaaro, te whakahua i to huarahi ma te whakamahi i nga aratohu o runga nei.
Me korero atu, "Kei te ahua o taku kaore i whai mahi i roto i te kaute a Johnson. Kaore taku ingoa e puta mai ki te pukapuka, kaore ano hoki i whakawhiwhia ki ahau i tetahi wahi ka kite ahau."
(Kua whakamahia e au etahi atu whakamahinga whakawhitiwhiti korero penei i te reo-reo i roto i tenei korero.) Kaore au i te whakamahi i nga kupu e pa ana ki a au no te mea he korero taiao, me te kore taunakitanga me nga meka.Kaore e taea te tautohetohe nga korero i roto i tenei korero. he mea ahuareka ki a maatau hoa mahi te whakautu.)
Whakamahia to korero tuatahi ka mutu te korero.
A, no te whakautu a te tangata e aro ana koe, tukua kia whakautu. Ko te hiahia o te tangata, engari kaore i te he ki te whakauru ki to korero tuatahi, ki te whakatika ake i te korero.
Ko te whakapae he aha koe ka mohio ai ko te huarahi e mahi ai koe ka waihanga noa i te tautohe. Korerotia te mea e hiahia ana koe ki te korero (te whakaehe), ka tuku noa i te tangata kia whakautu.
I te nuinga o te waa i te wa i whakahaerea e koe te korero i roto i to mahunga i etahi wa, ka whakaaro koe kei te mohio koe ki ta te tangata e whakautu ana. Engari, he hapa ki te peke ki taua waa i mua i te whai waahi ki te whakautu. Aukati i te whakamatautau ki te korero i tetahi atu mea i tenei wa. Tukua kia whakautu.
A ape i te tautohetohe i te wa o te riri.
Ko te tautohetohe ehara i te whawhai. Ko te tikanga e hiahia ana koe ki te tautuhi i ta koe e korero ana. Whakarongo ki ta ratou korero . He maha nga wa e mutu ana i reira.
Kei te hiahia koe ki te whakamatau i tetahi atu tangata tika ranei? Me kii te tangata i te hara? Tangohia te raruraru i tou uma, ka haere tonu.
Whakaahuahia te whakatau whakataunga e hiahia ana koe i mua i te riri.
Mena kua tae atu koe ki to hoa mahi ki te korero tuatahi, "I tangohia e koe te nama katoa, blah, blah, blah ..." ko tana urupare pea ka kaha te tiaki. Mahalo te ne pehē ha me'a hangē ko e, "'Io, kuo tuku mai kiate koe ha fakapapau." Na'á ku fakahaa'i honau ngaahi hingoá ki he pule'angá'i he uiké ko iá. "
Mena kua mohio koe ki ta koe e rapu ana i te whakawhitiwhiti , koinei te wahi e neke ai koe i te korero. Kaua e uru ki te tautohetohe mo tana mahi, kaore hoki i whakahua i tetahi mea ki te rangatira i te wiki whakamutunga - ehara i te mea koinei te take me te kore e tuku kia whakakorea koe i te whakatutuki i te whainga o te riri.
Ka taea e koe te whakautu, "Ka koa au ki te wa kei te heke mai o maatau ingoa ki nga tuhinga katoa , ka whakauru atu ki a raatau i roto i nga reta katoa mo te kaupapa."
Te arotahi ki te take pono o te riri.
Ka whakaae, ka kore ranei te taha o tera atu. Kia mau ki te take i tenei wa, ka karo i nga whakamatautau kia uru atu ki te tautohe. Whakawhitiwhiti , engari kaua e whawhai.
Ko te take kaore koe e whiwhi nama, me te hiahia koe ki to ingoa i runga i nga tuhinga. Koinei. Ehara i te mea mo te harakore, mo te mea he tika, he he ranei, he aha noa atu i to whakatau.
Kaore koe e tatari ki te whakawhitiwhiti; kaore pea koe e tino waimarie ki a koe, e mohio ana ranei ki te whakawhitiwhiti whakaaro. Heoi, he mea nui kia korero koe i te wa e pouri ana koe, e riri ana. Ki te kore e taea e koe te tu ake mo wai ake, ko wai ka pai?
He Korero mo nga Whakaaetanga Whakamaharatanga me te Whakariterite Whaiaro
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